EMOTIONAL NEEDS AUDIT

To rate how well your needs are being met at the moment, be as honest as possible with yourself in answering the questions below; using the scale of 1 to 7 where 1 means not at all well met’ and 7 means ‘very well met’.

Do you feel safe and secure in your home environment? For example, not fearful of bullying, eviction or maybe an unsafe neighbourhood.

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Do you feel safe and secure at work/school? For example, not fearful of bullying, losing your job or putting up with unreasonable demands.

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Do you feel you receive enough attention from other people? Do you feel appreciated by and listened to by others?

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Do you feel you give other people enough attention? Are you interested in what is going on for the people in your life?

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Do you feel in control of your life most of the time? Do you take the responsibility for the important decisions in your life? Maybe someone else such as your boss or partner is in the driving seat too much.

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Do you feel a need to control things that in fact you can’t? This is often related to other people’s behaviour. (Score low the more you agree)

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Do you feel part of the wider community? Do you have people you say hello to on the street? Are you part of any group of people outside your close friends and family such as a church, football club, parents’ group, aerobics class?

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Can you obtain privacy or time alone when you need to? Are you able to withdraw and quietly reflect or get on with some task or hobby in peace? Are you always available via mobile phone or social media day and night?

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Can you ‘lose yourself’ in a sport or hobby on a regular basis?

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Do you have at least one other person in your life who totally accepts you for who you are? Is there someone in your life that you trust completely, that you can confide in and be yourself with? Do you see that person or people often?

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Do you feel an emotional connection to other people? Do you have family and friends you care about and who care about you?

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Do you feel valued, respected and acknowledged by others for the roles you play in life? This may be for example as parent, a dutiful daughter or son, a talented artist, a hardworking colleague, a loyal friend.

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Are you achieving things in your life that you are proud of? Do you think you are good at what you do or at least some of the things you do? This could be managing a career, bringing up a child alone or an important life skill such as cooking, gardening or DIY.

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Are you mentally and/or physically stretched in ways that give you meaning and purpose? Do you participate in activities either at work or play that interest and challenge you? Are you learning new things?

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

If you have scored any need at 3 or less this is could be a major stressor for you. Even if you have scored only one low, it can be enough of a problem to have an adverse effect on your emotional well-being. A human givens counsellor will offer practical solutions and guidance help you to take steps to better to meet these needs.

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EMOTIONAL NEEDS AUDIT

To rate how well your needs are being met at the moment, be as honest as possible with yourself in answering the questions below; using the scale of 1 to 7 where 1 means not at all well met’ and 7 means ‘very well met’.

Do you feel safe and secure in your home environment? For example, not fearful of bullying, eviction or maybe an unsafe neighbourhood.

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Do you feel safe and secure at work/school? For example, not fearful of bullying, losing your job or putting up with unreasonable demands.

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Do you feel you receive enough attention from other people? Do you feel appreciated by and listened to by others?

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Do you feel you give other people enough attention? Are you interested in what is going on for the people in your life?

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Do you feel in control of your life most of the time? Do you take the responsibility for the important decisions in your life? Maybe someone else such as your boss or partner is in the driving seat too much.

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Do you feel a need to control things that in fact you can’t? This is often related to other people’s behaviour. (Score low the more you agree)

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Do you feel part of the wider community? Do you have people you say hello to on the street? Are you part of any group of people outside your close friends and family such as a church, football club, parents’ group, aerobics class?

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Can you obtain privacy or time alone when you need to? Are you able to withdraw and quietly reflect or get on with some task or hobby in peace? Are you always available via mobile phone or social media day and night?

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Can you ‘lose yourself’ in a sport or hobby on a regular basis?

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Do you have at least one other person in your life who totally accepts you for who you are? Is there someone in your life that you trust completely, that you can confide in and be yourself with? Do you see that person or people often?

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Do you feel an emotional connection to other people? Do you have family and friends you care about and who care about you?

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Do you feel valued, respected and acknowledged by others for the roles you play in life? This may be for example as parent, a dutiful daughter or son, a talented artist, a hardworking colleague, a loyal friend.

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Are you achieving things in your life that you are proud of? Do you think you are good at what you do or at least some of the things you do? This could be managing a career, bringing up a child alone or an important life skill such as cooking, gardening or DIY.

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Are you mentally and/or physically stretched in ways that give you meaning and purpose? Do you participate in activities either at work or play that interest and challenge you? Are you learning new things?

1 2 3 4 5 6 7